Overcoming Worry To Obtain Your Greatest Life

The Try just lately revealed an article by Atlas Rowe about discovering your greatness.

It was an excellent article and he made many good factors that I agree with.

There are lots of people which might be anxious that eager to achieve success or wealthy will make them no totally different than a type of egotistical, entitled, shallow wealthy folks. I do know as a result of I was one. I used to suppose the pursuit of cash made me shallow and ugly.

However there are additionally lots of people that need issues to be straightforward. I do know as a result of I was a type of folks too, not wanting to place myself on the market and take a threat, in case I fell flat on my face.

It felt safer to attend till I had the right thought, or for the right second.

I put a situation on my success with out realising it.

Success was solely attainable if first x,y and z occurred.

What’s Your Dream?

Inform me, do you have got a dream?  A want?  Need to reduce weight, begin a enterprise, get married, discover that excellent job?

Right here’s a query:  What’s holding you again?

Why haven’t you began your enterprise but?

Why aren’t you married but?

Why are you continue to complaining about your useless finish job, why haven’t you achieved something about it?

I can hear the litany of excuses you’re seemingly shouting at me now.

“There are not any jobs out there that i’m certified for.”

“I can’t afford a fitness center membership proper now so I can’t reduce weight.”

“There are not any extra good males/girls left up to now.”

I hear it on a regular basis and it drives me nuts. Mates, household, co-workers, all complaining about one thing or one other with out taking motion.

So many people are ready for the precise second.

Now we have a dream however we add a situation to it so we now have a handy excuse on why we haven’t taken motion but.

And it permits us to say “It’s not my fault”.

Too typically we would like what we would like with out making an effort.

Sure you need to be a millionaire and I see you shopping for lottery tickets, however truthfully, you usually tend to get wealthy beginning your individual web enterprise than you’re successful the lottery.

You’re like a sufferer in a superhero film, ready for Batman to brush in and prevent.

Properly right here’s a thought:  IT’S TIME TO BE YOUR OWN HERO!

Be Your Own Hero Quote

Batman didn’t know what he was doing at first both. It took him some time to excellent his costume (let’s face it he nonetheless can’t flip his neck). He needed to learn to battle, leap from buildings, drive ridiculous vehicles and bikes (I imply actually!).

He doesn’t carry a gun so he has to pummel dangerous guys together with his naked arms, and get pummelled within the course of himself.

The police hate him. He has no pals, and just one individual, Alfred, is aware of his true id.

But he goes to work throughout the day after which at night time, as a substitute of sitting in entrance of the TV consuming pizza, he goes out combating crime so he could make his metropolis a greater place to stay in.

No-one exhibits as much as save him, however everybody expects him to avoid wasting them.

His life sucks, large time!

I guess it sucks greater than yours.

However nonetheless he does it. He does it as a result of he has a dream and no-one else can do it for him.

It’s time so that you can turn into your individual hero and make your individual world higher.

I’ve researched plenty of profitable folks, and if there may be one factor I can say for positive, is that they took accountability for their very own lives.

They took motion to make their goals come true.

There was no ready for the precise job, or the precise second.

They didn’t sit round complaining that no-one was serving to them, that they didn’t know do one thing, or about their boss, or their lack of alternatives.

They went on the market and so they made it occur.

For many of them, it was laborious, it took time, there have been many setbacks, folks saying it couldn’t be achieved.

I guess they have been lonely, and scared, and anxious about cash.  However they stayed the course till they succeeded.

There’s a quote floating round on the web, how some folks work for years and years solely to abruptly turn into “profitable in a single day”.

It’s like TheStrive.co, do you suppose they constructed this web site in a single day? No, it took years of laborious work and dedication to make it the good web site it’s in the present day.

I was a type of mediocre underachievers, by no means actually making an attempt too laborious to realize issues, I anxious about failing, or being seen to fail.

I didn’t suppose I might do it and to be sincere I used to be just too scared.

It has taken a few years of reprogramming my mind, however I’ve realized that I’m really able to something I put my thoughts to, I SIMPLY HAVE TO GET STARTED.

  • After I attempt issues, I’m extra more likely to obtain one thing.
  • And I be taught from it.
  • I even be taught from failing.
  • This will increase my confidence.
  • Which signifies that now I’m prepared to attempt even larger and higher issues.

I grew to become my very own hero.

I now know that if I would like one thing to occur, it’s my obligation and accountability to do it.

No-one else can do it for me. It’s simply me, I’ve to take motion.

What Does it Imply to Be Your Personal Hero?

It means no extra excuses.

No extra ready for the precise second, or the precise alternative.

No extra being afraid.

Your dad and mom aren’t accountable for your life, nor your boss, your lecturers, your associate or your monetary adviser.

You’re the individual accountable for your life.

It’s time to take motion, even when it’s a small step, to making your goals come true.

How Do I Begin? The place Do I Begin?


If you need a promotion then don’t wait till you are feeling prepared.

There are two sorts of folks on this world, those that suppose they’re able to be CEO when they don’t seem to be, and those that by no means really feel prepared, in order that they don’t even attempt.

You’re clearly within the 2nd group in any other case you wouldn’t be studying this.

Make an appointment along with your boss, state your case for a promotion, and get readability of what you’ll need to do to make it occur.

My boss gave me plenty of tasks to work on for a 12 months or two to boost my profile.

It additionally gave me numerous materials to placed on my promotion kind to show I’ve what it takes to go to the following degree.

New Job

Sufficient complaining about how a lot you hate your job.

It’s time to start out on the lookout for a brand new job.

The proper job isn’t going to search out you thru magic, you’ll need to go on the lookout for it.

And like a princess you’re going to need to kiss a couple of frogs.

This implies go for interviews even if you happen to don’t significantly need the job, as a result of it’s nice practise.

That method when the job you DO need comes alongside, your interview abilities might be superior.

  1. Write your CV.
  2. Create a couple of on-line job seeker profiles – there are various web sites to select from, in all industries. Begin with Linked In if you’re uncertain.
  3. Seek for 10 jobs a minimum of, they don’t need to be excellent, and also you don’t have to have all of the {qualifications} listed.
  4. Apply for these 10 jobs.
  5. Wait per week or two. REPEAT the method till you get a minimum of three interviews.


I just lately had a dialog with a buddy about relationship.

I typically really feel that once we date, or once we are single, we hope somebody will come alongside and sweep us off our ft, resolve all our issues for us, inform us we’re stunning and good, make us really feel beloved and worthy of being beloved.

We anticipate them to assist us magically soften all our insecurities away in a heartbeat.

If solely the precise individual would come alongside to like you, you may lastly really feel assured, safe and completely happy.

We’re all ready for that assured, fairly, profitable and wealthy individual to come back alongside.

No-one thinks to turn into that individual themselves.

The issue with ready for another person to be your hero, is that there are not any excellent heroes. Everybody has their very own issues, and their very own insecurities.

So as a substitute you have to turn into the hero in your individual story.

After I first noticed the film Shrek, I used to be very amused by the princess.

She is clearly her personal hero able to saving herself.

However as a substitute of taking possession, she chooses to attend round for her excellent prince to come back alongside.

Don’t be the princess within the tower.

Contemplate this:  Why ought to another person love you if you happen to don’t love your self?

Work on your self, be taught to like your self.


So that you need to have your individual enterprise however don’t know the place to start out?

Right here’s a thought:  E-commerce

Promoting a product on Amazon is the best solution to get began and you are able to do that whereas nonetheless exhibiting up on your day job (the one you hate).

  1. Make a listing of every part you have got purchased your self over the previous 6 months.
  2. Then make a listing of every part your associate has purchased over the previous 6 months
  3. And one other checklist of every part you hear your pals or work colleagues speak about.
  4. Have youngsters within the household? Properly what toys do they speak about or like taking part in with?

In the event you nonetheless don’t have an thought on your first product then it’s time to pivot to another sort of enterprise.


It’s time to cease speaking about it and eventually join your MBA, or these guitar classes you’ve had in your New 12 months’s Resolutions now for five years straight.

I guess a minimum of one individual you’re employed with has an MBA.

Ask round until you discover that individual, and get their ideas on the place it is best to go for yours.

Guitar classes you’ll be able to simply do on-line.

Or higher but, GO OUT AND BUY A GUITAR after which ask the salesperson who they’d advocate.


It’s time to simply accept you’re underpaid.

And due to this fact time for a payrise.

I discover it really works about the identical as asking for a promotion.  Make a listing of all every part you’ve achieved over the previous 12 months or 2, and it helps if you will discover out what others earn.

In case your supervisor is prepared he/she may provide you with some extra tasks to work on.  That is good, that method once you full it they haven’t any selection however to provide the pay enhance.

But when they are saying no, then it’s time to barter.

  1. Don’t settle for no for a solution
  2. Be affected person
  3. Proceed the dialog as calmly as attainable
  4. Impress in your boss all of your successes
  5. Listing your present obligations
  6. Point out your accomplished tasks
  7. And discover out the final wage on the road (provided that larger than yours, don’t point out it if it’s decrease)
  8. Be prepared to compromise.
    1. You possibly can provide to work extra weekends to show your dedication to the corporate, or vice versa, if they provide to pay for journey bills or one thing related, then it’s nearly as good as getting a pay rise as you’ll nonetheless have more money in your pocket.

Learn By no means Cut up the Distinction: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Christopher Voss.

It’s top-of-the-line books on negotiation I’ve ever learn.

I’ve negotiated essentially the most random concessions out of firms and other people utilizing these methods, all which in the long run had actual financial worth for me.

Shopping for a Home

I can’t lie, except you’re a hedge fund child, you’re going want to start out saving some cash each month.

Hero’s don’t await permission. So seize the bull by the horns, and begin socking cash away every time you’ll be able to and as a lot as you’ll be able to.

The earlier you begin the better it’s going to turn into, and the BETTER it will likely be for you due to Compound Curiosity.

Compound curiosity is once you earn curiosity on final 12 months’s curiosity.

Over 10 years it could make an enormous distinction.

The identical goes for bank cards, however not in your favour. Curiosity on curiosity you haven’t paid is like burning banknotes for enjoyable, besides no-one really thinks it’s enjoyable.

In my view, you need to be shopping for your first home by the age of 30. Even if you happen to suppose the market is overpriced, begin saving cash, as a result of luck occurs when preparedness meets alternative.

The purpose is, get your price range collectively and begin saving cash.

  1. Take a look at starter houses for first time consumers in your space so you may get an thought of costs
  2. Make a price range
  3. Listing your earnings
  4. Listing all of your bills
  5. Listing every part that you just spend cash on which might be luxuries (I hate to be one among THOSE folks however 5 Starbucks lattes a day will not be an excellent funding)
  6. Work out what you can provide up every month
  7. How a lot are you able to then save a month

The maths works like this:

  1. It can save you $100 per 30 days
  2. You want $20,000 to place down on a deposit for a home
  3. Which means it’s a must to save for 200 months, which is 16+ years.


  1. You need to purchase a home in 5 years, so 12 months x 5 = 60 months of saving
  2. The deposit might be $20,000.
  3. So you could save $334 per 30 days

Around the World Journey

Be sincere now, it’s in your bucket checklist isn’t it!

Right here’s the excellent news that almost all staff don’t know, as a result of they don’t learn the worker handbook correctly.

Most firms provide some kind of unpaid depart the place you’ll be able to take a profession break with out having to give up your job.

That means that so long as you have got saved sufficient cash for bills when you journey, your job will nonetheless be there once you get again.

Examine along with your HR division, then have a dialog along with your supervisor.

Discover out what they’d be prepared to agree with.

It is likely to be that they’ll’t do with out you this 12 months, however if you happen to wait 12 months after that large undertaking has completed, they’d be prepared to allow you to take 3 months off.

Grow to be Your Greatest Self

I’ve left this one for final because it’s a bit obscure.

However the fact is that success in life requires you to TAKE SOME FORM OF ACTION.

For a lot of that motion is simply too scary.

We lack self-worth or vanity for therefore many causes, so to take that subsequent step might be daunting and scary.

So it’s time to start out engaged on your self.

Be taught extra about confidence, construct new habits that set you up for fulfillment, and begin engaged on buying the talents you may have to construct the long run you need.

You’re nonetheless delaying taking motion, however a minimum of you’re taking small steps in the precise path.

The purpose is to START!


Be The Hero Of Your Own Story Quote

Each journey begins with a small step.

Outline your dream life.

Establish small steps you’ll be able to take in direction of it.



Take MASSIVE motion.

Dive in head first and be taught to swim with the sharks.

It’s your selection.

However I promise you, in your deathbed you’ll want you had a minimum of tried.

Don’t be the boring grandparent!

Be the grandparent with the nice tales to inform!

Until subsequent time,


PS – In the event you loved this submit about changing into your individual hero, then you definately’ll love this submit on Learn how to Be a Conqueror.

I am Christian Nnakuzierem Alozie (Kris Kuzie Alozie). A native of Eziama Nneato in Umunneochi LGA, Abia State, Nigeria. I am an inspirational writer and a motivational speaker. And above all, a lover of charity.

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