Loneliness is Your Worst Enemy| 3 Steps to Overcome it ~ Psychological Wellness [Maintain Your Mental Health & Mental Wellbeing]

A couple of days in the past I noticed a headline within the newspaper, “World Inhabitants is Projected to Attain 8 Billion on November 2022” -how unusual, nonetheless folks really feel loneliness! The query ought to come up in thoughts, ‘I’m alone within the crowd of so many individuals’?

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In fact, this isn’t shocking as a result of loneliness is completely a matter of 1’s personal thoughts, one’s personal emotions. You’ll be able to really feel your self alone in a crowd of tens of millions of individuals, and even with all of the entertainments in entrance of you loneliness would not need to be ended. Nevertheless, being alone and feeling loneliness are utterly various things. Loneliness is an entire frame of mind, an empty area contained in the thoughts that can not be crammed even when surrounded by folks from your complete universe. It’s an disagreeable emotional response and psychological course of. Loneliness might be felt when there will probably be no stability of addition and subtraction in life. It’s regular to really feel loneliness when an individual stays alone, feels unloved and inferiority. 

Loners by no means need to be alone, they need to speak to others, they need to join with others, however their psychological state is at a degree the place they can not get together with others, they seek for emotional bonds. In truth, he who has endured the sensation of loneliness can perceive its burning, its ache precisely. 

What Loneliness Really feel Like:- 

Nobody can clarify the sensation of loneliness to anybody, this sense might even come to the household together with married life. Throughout this time, speaking to others, watching TV, spending time on social media will really feel boring. Nearly everybody experiences loneliness sooner or later in life, however the diploma and expertise of it’s totally different for everybody. 
You’ll be able to undoubtedly like to remain alone and be pleased with out connecting with others. Being alone can usually be very peaceable and constructive in case you do not feel loneliness. Loneliness is an empty area within the thoughts which could be very tough to perceive ‘who can fill it’ or ‘with what it may be crammed’. Because of this, you could really feel helpless and alone even within the crowd of kin, buddies and even many individuals. It’s a scorching burn of the thoughts which may neither be defined to anybody, nor be endured by itself. Typically even with all types of leisure it can’t be fulfilled or come out of it. 

What causes loneliness?  

No particular explanation for loneliness might be defined, typically the sensation of loneliness can come with none purpose.  Our thoughts needs to be busy on a regular basis and adapts to a sure circulation, when our thoughts doesn’t get related work and the circulation of life is disrupted, particularly when there are sudden abrupt modifications in life, loneliness is extra prone to happen.

The loss of life of a beloved one or the rejection by lover, a sudden change in setting or a sudden relocation, all can result in emotions of loneliness. Typically monetary challenges or lack of household or social significance can even result in emotions of loneliness. 

Break-up in relationships, uncooperative colleagues at work, repeated lack of respect can even result in emotions of loneliness.

Why Loneliness is Harmful:

Loneliness has a adverse huge affect on our psychological and bodily well being. It robs our sleep, starvation first and from there the physique and thoughts develop into weaker and so numerous illnesses take root. Continual Loneliness, particularly if it stays for a big time frame in an individual’s life, will increase the chance of stress, will increase weight problems, disappointment, worry, nervousness, melancholy. Feeling loneliness can develop into one of many causes of hypertension, excessive ldl cholesterol, indigestion, fuel & acidity issues. Above all, power loneliness will increase the chance of loss of life by inducing suicide.

How Loneliness Results on Psychological well being:

Loneliness and psychological well-being are inextricably linked, loneliness robs psychological well-being.  Being alone, away from shouting, noise, avoiding crowds helps to take care of Psychological Wellness, quite the opposite, loneliness has a profound adverse impact on psychological well being.
Loneliness brings forth of a terrifying imagine within the thoughts that nobody on the planet cares about you, nobody loves you, nobody understands your coronary heart. A wierd self-doubt arises from which inferiority grows. Nervousness, melancholy, emotional instability, anger and resentment improve and social nervousness begins. Simply because the loneliness may cause melancholy, the reverse can be true, i.e melancholy may cause loneliness additionally, so we are able to say that they affect one another.  
Loneliness triggers a sorts of adverse ideas that result in lack of self-efficacy, making it virtually not possible to focus on any process. So if loneliness cannot be overcome it’s going to virtually be not possible to take care of good psychological well being.

How do I cease feeling of loneliness:

Regardless of how adverse folks take into consideration loneliness, or how horrible it might be offered to you, the very best information about it’s that it could by no means final very lengthy and might be simply overcome with out utilizing any drugs or bodily merchandise. 

3 methods to beat loneliness:

1) Consciously divert your consideration: 

One of many methods to keep away from loneliness is to divert consideration. Everytime you really feel loneliness, consciously change your ideas.  The extra you assume that you’re lonely, unsupported, unhappy, the extra empty your life will really feel, the extra empty your thoughts will probably be. When your thoughts stays empty it’s going to appeal to all of the adverse ideas, adverse occasions shortly. Higher but, shift your ideas to the inventive, constructive considering by taking aware management. All the time attempt to preserve your self busy with some work, though it is extremely tough to do that at first, it’s important to do it in opposition to your will with aware management. Select solely the duties of your selection if needed. You will note that the sensation of loneliness fades with time. 

2) Overcome the Concern of Rejection: 

Although one of many causes for feeling loneliness is being rejected or worry of being rejected. If be rejected for any purpose is the reason for your loneliness, then undoubtedly do not forget that one or two folks might not settle for you, might misunderstand you, due to their nature, traits don’t match with yours. That does not imply you’re going to get rejection by 8 billion folks. There are numerous who love you, there are a lot of who’re prepared to return to you, solely you don’t or can’t place them in your coronary heart for worry of rejection.  When you open the door of the center, there will probably be no scarcity of beneficiant folks. If you’d like assist or empathy, many individuals will reply, their reply is not going to solely be ‘sure’, however the reply might be “no”, it doesn’t imply that you’re rejected from this society, from each human being.  There are numerous empathetic folks on this world who will settle for you from their hearts.

3) Take away the picture of loneliness out of your thoughts: 

I’m sharing a really highly effective NLP method with which you’ll simply take away the sensation of loneliness and really feel rather more motivated. You’ll really feel numerous aid in case you observe the method step-by-step. 

  • Step-1: Consider an occasion if you have been actually having fun with with your pals or household or together with your lover or in a social celebration. It could be of any of your previous great reminiscence when really you have been completely related to others. Discover all of the submodalities [quality of the video/images, colours, sounds and voices] of the image. See what you’ve gotten seen, pay attention what you’ve gotten heard, really feel what you’ve gotten felt. Intensify your emotions of the occasion. Make the image extra clear, nearer and wider, re-enjoy the occasion.
  • Step-2: Break your state and now consider your loneliness, think about the film of your loneliness is taking part in in a TV in entrance of you and look your self within the film. Think about there’s a distant management in your hand, with which make the film black and white, mute the sound. Play it until finish with out color and sound.
  • Step-3: Think about a big theater display screen steadily overlaying the TV display screen. On this theater the film [which one was created by you in Step-1] of your enjoyment is taking part in. Think about its enticing colors and sweetness of sound are attracting you increasingly, involving you increasingly.  Really feel that you’re within the centre of your complete occasion, everyone seems to be welcoming you, you might be having fun with your self with everybody. 
  • Step-4: Repeat Steps one to a few for just a few occasions and spot your emotions, undoubtedly you’ll really feel completely totally different.


Loneliness just isn’t as unhealthy as you assume. A momentary feeling of loneliness creates a vacuum in your thoughts which may develop into satisfying in case you can instill in you an urge to fill it. Discover out Purpose of your Loneliness. It’s the traits of the human race that the frame of mind will change in numerous occasions, there may be nothing irregular about it. Loneliness can be a psychological situation, you possibly can management it, however you might want to know what’s the actual purpose on your loneliness! When you ask your self why you are feeling lonely and attempt to discover the reply from the thoughts then you’ll undoubtedly come to know the actual purpose behind it, after which it will likely be very straightforward so that you can resolve it as a result of there are a lot of methods to resolve this. 

I am Christian Nnakuzierem Alozie (Kris Kuzie Alozie). A native of Eziama Nneato in Umunneochi LGA, Abia State, Nigeria. I am an inspirational writer and a motivational speaker. And above all, a lover of charity.

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