Escaping the yucky rut and dwelling extra authentically with Melissa Blakey

Immediately we now have a really particular visitor on the She Goals All Day Podcast; my great previous shopper, Melissa Blakey!

Melissa is a Soul Objective coach who helps high-achieving ladies who’re caught in a rut, by way of mindset shifts, manifestation and just a little sprint of woo woo.

The issues Melissa shares on this podcast as so simply implementable, and it is possible for you to to take motion on a few of her factors immediately.

So in case youre in a little bit of a rut, caught in a destructive headspace, or need some recommendation about dwelling extra authentically you, this episode is for you.


Who’s Melissa?

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I’ve a background in retail and administration, and Ive all the time had a ardour for serving to and growing others.

Again in 2020, I received my masters in Studying and Improvement and deliberate to get out of my earlier job to work for an organization growing individuals.

After which 2020 hit!

Every part shifted. I used to be in a rut at work, there was a variety of poisonous vitality, relationships had been altering and a variety of issues in my life didnt align with who I used to be.

I questioned the whole lot; like what I used to be doing and what my lifes function was.

So I carried out three issues.

Mindfulness, gratitude and routine.

As soon as I realised I used to be on a journey and wanted to let the timeline I had in my head go, issues began to open up for me.

For instance, I began my weblog and training with you (Mia!).


The explanation for beginning my weblog was that I had a lot to say. I needed to get it on the market, even when nobody was going to learn it.

I had no thought what I even wanted to do till I labored out who my excellent shopper could be. Who I used to be actually chatting with.

Then after the weblog, I realised I needed to do teaching.

Ive been teaching ever since and shifting into a unique area of interest and avenue.

Thats what led me to be a religious coach, serving to individuals discover their function.

My job is to assist ladies shift their perspective from a do do do angle to get again to the particular person theyre alleged to be.

One of many good issues to return out of 2020 was individuals had been pressured to consider other ways of doing issues.

We questioned issues weve performed previously.

We requested whether or not issues had been making us joyful anymore. In the event that they aligned with us as individuals.

Personally, Im grateful for going by way of that tough area, because it allowed me to change into the particular person I’m at present.


First issues first, resolutions dont work.

For me, I love to do issues a bit in another way.

At the beginning of 2022, I picked a phrase that I used to be going to have for your complete yr. A phrase to information me.


I didnt realise how a lot that phrase would play into my life!

So now, with any motion or expertise in my life, I am going again to that phrase each time.

Am I in alignment? Does this align with me?

This helps me to dive into my true self. My genuine self.

Permitting me to reside extra authentically.

Im additionally curious, and one in all my large passions is astrology. Im interested by issues (which comes from my Gemini facet). I like studying about issues and other people.

Then connection additionally ties in. Connecting with individuals lights me up. These all add to the thread that ties all of it collectively.

Phrases will change as you change and develop.

For you (Mia), a freedom way of life is a giant factor.

Its essential to simply ask your self;

What lights you up?

Discover clues in your Pinterest dwelling web page, and your Instagram algorithm. Even your Google search historical past!

They’re the issues that make you cheerful. They’re clues to who you might be.

Top-of-the-line issues about teaching is you get to fulfill individuals precisely the place they’re in life, whatever the stage theyre at. You see the modifications they will make, and its magical to witness that journey.


In case you dont imagine in your self, no matter it’s youre aiming for, isnt going to work.

Mindset is a big a part of dwelling an genuine life.

Belief is a muscle.

In case youre not understanding that muscle, youre not going to have it.

In case you take a look at somebody like Lacy Phillips, she has alternative routes to work by way of limiting beliefs.

She makes use of manifestation to consider one thing and it’ll come to you. The universe needs to see you displaying up, not doing the identical previous, usual.

Shift the whole lot in your life to indicate the universe that; sure, I do need this and deserve this.

Show to your self that magic is doable. That is one thing that she begins doing as mini manifestations, and I extremely suggest her teaching in case you havent already tried it!

She exhibits how it’s doable for issues to occur in case you belief that they are going to.

Whenever you begin dwelling in alignment, the universe opens up doorways for you.


Swap the narrative of your life.

Take me for instance. I labored in retail and was consistently provided promotions. I turned them down, as to me, accepting it meant Id be the without end.

Someday, I switched this. I took the promotion and informed myself it was a stepping stone to attending to the place I needed to be. It was extra money, and it wasnt going to be without end.

This allowed me to take extra teaching lessons and supported the issues I truly needed to do.

As entrepreneurs, we regularly need to make passive revenue or create freedom, and we wish it now.

Generally we get in our personal method as were obsessive about simply getting the outcomes!

Realising that you justre at a unique chapter in your life than this particular person you had been earlier than might be simply as rewarding.

Respect how far youve come and the journey youre on.


Jealousy is usually a large shadow within the on-line enterprise world.

It will probably maintain you again, which isnt going to push you to the following stage.

Swap this. Assume; that is somebody I can be taught from. They’ve one thing I need. Im now able to get it in my very own method.

Lean into being extra conscious.

In case youre like me, all the time in your personal head, with issues happening and a loud thoughts, realise you should sit with these ideas. Determine them out. Take into consideration what it’s you actually need to work on.


Gratitude was a giant factor for me.

It turned partwork of my routine each morning and night time for a yr.

My gratitude journal was a spot for me to document one thing daily that I used to be grateful for.

Generally I couldnt consider something, so Id write issues like; at present I got up and moved, or I awakened and spoke to a pal.

It doesnt need to be main!

Even struggles made it onto the listing, and thats okay!

Shifting my mindset allowed me to have a look at issues by way of a unique lens.

It made me realise that experiences in my life will not be taking place to me personally, however are simply issues which are taking place. After which I ask myself, how am I going to work by way of it?

Consider it like; that is the half within the e book the place the character has to combat, however in just a few chapters, the character can be by way of it.

Change the way you view issues that occur to you throughout the day.

It will probably really feel scary to take a seat together with your ideas in case you dont like listening to them, however attempt to sit with them and work by way of it.

And meditation doesnt need to be sitting or laying on the ground.

It may be strolling outdoors!

A few of my finest realisations come from after Im outdoors in nature, strolling and considering. I personally get a lot inspiration simply from being outdoors.

Nature is a grounding pressure.

Put your toes within the grass.

Tune into you.

See what comes up!

In case you sluggish and quieten your thoughts, thats when the universe goes to offer you hints. Were often simply too busy to hear!

I like to recommend the e book The Mountain is You for getting over self-sabotage and limiting beliefs, although it takes some time to get by way of, it’s life-changing.


My teaching actually relies on the particular person and what youre trying to find. For instance, we’d take a look at limiting beliefs or discovering your life function. Or routines and the way they will assist you in dwelling extra authentically.

Or in case youre right into a little bit of woo, we will take a look at visualisations and the strengths in your chart.

Its all about being supportive, and serving to you thru your journey.

Wow, what a tremendous perception from Melissa! If you wish to discover out extra about Melissa and the unbelievable work she does, you possibly can attain her on Instagram at @realmindsetmaven.

Thanks a lot, Melissa!

I am Christian Nnakuzierem Alozie (Kris Kuzie Alozie). A native of Eziama Nneato in Umunneochi LGA, Abia State, Nigeria. I am an inspirational writer and a motivational speaker. And above all, a lover of charity.

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